Rejoice in the success of others and watch what God does for you | Faith | The Press and Standard
by The Press and Standard | November 13, 2016 5:00 am
Last Updated: November 9, 2016 at 1:56 pm
In our highly competitive world, there are those who experience success every day. On the other hand, there are those who do not, and they tend to have a problem with those who do. Instead of being happy for others who are succeeding in their endeavors, the unhappy tend to spread rumors and lies about the success of others, simply because they are not where they want to be in life. That is not right, and it can become a contagious disease if others stand still listening to the foolishness.
God wants all of us to be happy and to rejoice for those who are succeeding because He said, “Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing,” 1Thessalonians 5:11 (ESV). He further stated in Romans 12:15 (ESV), “Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep.”
Therefore, instead of finding fault and derogatorily discussing others’ success, pray for them to continue in their success and encourage them. You never know where their success could eventually take you. I am not going to give a lengthy discourse on this topic; I am just going to share an inspirational story that I found that sums it up perfectly. Further, this story can be appealing to all audiences, especially to young people. I have found that jealousy and envy among young people is very strong today, so I hope this story, “No One is Successful to Spite You” by Sarah Newman, will give them some valuable insight on the topic.
“Have you ever found yourself in a [tizzy] about something and you weren’t sure why? Maybe your coworker just got a raise, your sister just got her master’s degree, your brother just bought the most lavish house, or your friend is moving away to start a family in the suburbs? With all this great ‘mojo’ going on around you, why can’t you seem to be happy yourself?
“Being happy for others may not come naturally for everyone. After all, we all have a competitive spirit. But when you find you’re able to feel happiness simply because others are happy, you gain a fresh perspective on life.
“I’ll admit it. I wasn’t always eager to be happy for other people. In fact, when I was growing up, I only had two speeds: neutral or downright jealous of others. This included wanting to have better things than my friends. I’d watch other little girls open presents at their birthday parties and definitely felt nothing but envy. Parents would also stand around and make excited noises as a child opened a gift and I wondered, ‘What are they excited about? Do they also want a Barbie?’
“I was unable to be happy simply because I saw that my friend was happy. I was mired in my own feelings and desires (i.e. I want a new Barbie!). Sometimes I was just utterly bored (i.e. Who cares that Mallory has a new toy? Why are we watching this?).
“Sometimes it just takes admitting jealousy to recognize that you’re making a mistake, and stop focusing so much on yourself. Instead of having a ‘knee-****’ reaction to a person or an event, I call myself out and try to get to the root of what I’m feeling. If I don’t like this cheerleader, although I don’t know her at all — what’s really going on here? Well, it’s probably because she’s perky and popular. Maybe I wish I were more upbeat. Maybe I wish I had more friends, but immediately writing people off like I did that cheerleader isn’t going to get me new friends.
“Once I started to say how I felt out loud, I was actually paying people compliments left and right.
“As you get older, the stakes are different. You may envy the big house, the new car, the executive pay raise, etc. I had a friend who watched a documentary about Beyoncé and Jay Z and had a tremendously negative reaction to it. ‘Of course, their life’s wonderful,’ he said. ‘They’re riding around on their yacht in the Caribbean.’ He said he didn’t want to hear about how much they love their work or their marriage, as if to say anyone with millions of dollars should love life.
“When I saw the same film, I was baffled. I found everything the couple said to be very moving. In fact, I’m relieved and excited to see two uber-successful young artists really appreciating and mirroring all that love and positivity we slather them with. That doesn’t always happen.
“I think the big questions I have to ask myself when I’m in a place where I can see nothing but envy is: Is it going to hurt me to just be happy for this person? If I just let go of my envy, what does it cost me?’
Being envious wastes a lot of time and energy. When I admit to myself that I’m being jealous and let go of that jealousy, I feel unburdened. I feel free. The success of others isn’t personal. It wasn’t done to spite you. It costs nothing to remove your own desires from the equation and feel relief and happiness for another person. In the end, acknowledging the fact that things are going well for other people compiles evidence that things will probably work out for you, too.”
So don’t worry. Be happy…for others, and watch what God will do for you!
Have a wonderfully blessed week, and never leave home without Him!
(Anna Bright is a minister and educator in Walterboro. She can be reached at email@example.com)