Time with family matters | Faith | The Press and Standard
by The Press and Standard | April 24, 2016 5:00 am
Last Updated: April 20, 2016 at 2:31 pm
Sometimes, in this busy walk of life, we all get so caught up in satisfying our bosses on our jobs, giving tirelessly to community endeavors, faithfully serving on committees at church, talking on the telephone (maybe longer than we should) and spending time in the stores catching every sale that comes along, we forget about spending time with our families.
Some of us even go to the extreme of putting any and everything before our families. However, when we wake up one day and realize the minute amount of time we have spent with our families, we then wonder, “Where did the time go?”
Time doesn’t stand still for anyone, so we must use it to the best of our abilities and don’t overlook our families. Part of the reason that things are going so awry in this country is that the family unit has been severed, and quality family time is almost nonexistent.
There are several Scriptures about family, such as this one, that lets us know what God expects from families and what He will do in return: Psalm 103:17, “But the love of the Lord remains forever with those who fear him. His salvation extends to the children’s children.” (NLT).
In some of today’s families, there are televisions in almost every room, something that was unheard of during my childhood days. Almost everyone is eating on the run or all alone, instead of at the dinner table. Kids are being dropped off at their games, and the coaches and chaperones serve as the babysitters. The children are watching themselves because Mommy and Daddy are each working two jobs, just to keep food on the table. The older children of the home bear a large responsibility for the younger ones, and sometimes have to work long hours to help pay the bills, even while going to school.
In many instances, “the streets” are raising today’s children. Going to church together as a family is becoming a thing of the past. In all of the above, precious time is lost in the development and cohesiveness of the family.
According to Christian educator and pastor Chuck Swindoll, “A family is a place where principles are hammered and honed on the anvil of everyday living.” Further, D.L. Moody, a Christian revivalist, affirms, “A man ought to live so that everybody knows he is a Christian… and most of all, his family ought to know.”
Spending time with family is a real gem when it is done in peace, harmony, and love. According to Pastor Clay Hallmark, “Not only does your family matter, but your time with your family also matters!”
Time is something that cannot be reclaimed if lost. I challenge every family member this week to take an inventory of yourselves to see where you are spending your most valuable time. If the family is at the bottom of the totem pole, then you need to regroup.
As you take that inventory, think on this anonymous story of a man who neglected to spend enough time with his family, “George was a Driver and…””
George was a driver, and he spent so much time at his work, that he could hardly have a meal together with his wife and three children. In the evenings he attended classes, seeking to get knowledge that one day would help him to find a better paying job.
“George’s family often complained that he was not spending enough time with them, but his only answer was ‘I am doing all this for you; I work hard to provide my family with the best that I can.’
“Soon after George had passed his exams, he received a good job offer with a salary which was significantly higher than he had before. So now George could provide his family with more expensive clothes, even some luxury items or vacations in foreign countries. It was like a dream come true, but the family still did not get enough attention from George, as he continued to work very hard, and often he did not get to see his family for most of the week.
“Time passed and George‘s hard work paid off; he was promoted. He decided to relieve his wife from domestic work, so he hired a maid. He also decided that their flat was not big enough for their family, so they needed a more spacious one. Thus, he needed to work even harder. Therefore, he continued his studies so that he would be promoted again. George worked so hard, that sometimes he even had to spend his Sundays with his clients, instead of his wife and children. And again, whenever family asked for his time and complained that they do not spend enough time together, he answered that he was doing all this only for them.
“Later, George was promoted again, so now he could buy a spacious house with a beautiful view. On the first Sunday evening at their new home, George told his wife and kids that now he decided not to take any more studies and was not going to work so hard, so that he could spend more time with his beloved family.
“The very next morning, George did not wake up.”
Have a wonderfully blessed week, and never leave home without Him!
(Anna Bright is a minister and educator in Walterboro. She can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org)